I am very, very, very sorry this is only being replied to now. So in order to try and make up for this, I will give as much detail as possible. But on the whole, I bloody ship it!
Okay, so I’m not sure if you are an INFJ or INTJ so I’ll try to stay balanced but of course I will talk more about INFJ’s. I don’t feel comfortable talking about INTJ’s as I’m sure one of my followers will be better equipped to give a more detailed response than I am.
Anyway, to an INFJ, the INTJ is very easy to talk to. I guess because we share the same dominant function. They seem to know a lot about the world in general, which I appreciate. My INTJ friend appreciates my insight into people and she says that she likes having someone to talk to about it. And all her feels xD
Both types are naturally patient with each other, it’s very nice because even a little understanding goes a long way.
But of course, I bet you’re more interested in where it might go wrong?
Yes, there will be problems and snags. Mainly in the Fe/Te department. I suppose it’s because both functions are extroverted. But my INTJ friend likes to put her plans into action… I honestly, don’t care about that side much. I just like to talk about my problems, I don’t want to fix them. But I appreciate that my INTJ takes time out to help me come up with solutions that actually work! I just find I always lose interest in taking her up on them very quickly. This might offend her, I don’t know. But I hope it doesn’t.
Another thing I might add is INFJ/INTJ debating. Jesus, I don’t think there isn’t any NT who is cautious about debating an NF because we get so emotionally attached. It’s true, we are more susceptible to taking things personally. I did a little digging into human psychology and what not to see why this may be and the best I can come up with is INFJ’s are probably more susceptible to emotional hijacking. If this happens, be assured you have personally offended the INFJ in question. It may not be what was said at that particular moment in time, but it will be something you have done that is relevant to this topic at hand. In order to not fall victim of the INFJ wrath, let them cool down. Seriously. This mode is a primitive “fight or flight” mode so all access to their logical brain has been cut off as the emotional brain has hijacked the controls. Do not use personal pronouns - as then you have opened the door to personal attacks - and just stop arguing and walk away if you must. When they have calmed down, you can resume the topic of discussion logically and civilly. But if you try and reason with anyone who’s under emotional hijack, they will rip you apart personally. In this kind of mental state, you are the enemy so they must attack. And unfortunately it is here people say things they often regret immediately after, so just don’t let it get that far.
Hate to sound dramatic but that’s just how the emotional brain works.
Hope that helps and best of luck!